When each of you said the words "I do" at your wedding, you probably never considered that there would be serious tough spots in your marriage. Of course, you probably knew there would be disagreements -- after all, you are individuals who come from different backgrounds, so there will be times that you have to compromise. However, if things have gone beyond simple disagreements, you are probably trying really hard to save your marriage.

From things you can try yourself to making arrangements to see a marriage counselor, here are some ideas that might help you to have a bright future together:

Things You Can Do Yourselves 

Think about what is causing the disharmony in your marriage. In fact, consider siting down together where you can actually write down on paper what is standing in the way of your true happiness together. 

For example, one of you might write down the fact that, because of things like business obligations or serving on committees, you don't have enough actual time to spend together. You might even write down the fact that one of you feels threatened by the other's flirtations, no matter how innocent they might be. Perhaps the way money is handled might be an obstacle in your marriage.

After writing down each of your concerns, think of ways that you can overcome them. For example, a trip together might help you to spend time alone. A promise to stay by each other's sides at social gatherings might stop any flirtations. Establishing a fair and firm budget together could go a long way in helping with financial problems. 

Think of setting a time each week to go over goals and commitments you have made to each other. Fine tune them as you progress.

Seek Marriage Counseling

If you tried everything you could think of and nothing has helped, it might be time to seek professional marriage counseling. Your family doctor or your ecclesiastic leader will more than likely have names of excellent therapists who focus on marriage counseling.

If you do see a marriage counselor, be ready to answer many personal questions in a very honest way. The counselor will probably see you together and then by yourselves. You might be given homework -- for example, if one of you or both of you feel that you don't focus enough time on each other, the counselor might assign you to go out on a date each week without children and without other friends.

Trust your marriage counselor. He or she will have had the training necessary to help with anything as minor as innocent flirting to something as serious as one of you or both of you having an affair with somebody else.